A Life Worth Living: Love, reflections, questions, and more

December 29, 2010

A dear friend of mine (hi Lucia!) shared with me this quote, one that couldn’t be more correct:

“There are four questions of value in life: What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.”
-Don Juan DeMarco

Love really is what life is all about. Loving ourselves, loving others, loving life. To me, finding love in all these things is about finding peace within ourselves, and respect for all. But finding the path to this place, since that is the journey, is the most difficult part.

I guess just practicing love gets you closer to this, right? Start everything you do with love. Bring love with you everywhere you go.

This includes making sure you are doing things you love. Reading, cooking, talking with friends, exercising, maybe even working. Whatever it is, try to take a few minutes (if not all of the minutes spent) appreciating the act of [fill in the blank]. Enjoy the paper filing you are doing. Enjoy and accept the pure difficulty in lifting that barbell. Finding the love, the peace, the acceptance of your actions may be the best practice in finding that love for living.

Another dear person in my life, and wise, wise woman (hi Mom), gave me a series of questions to look at every morning and every night. These questions are reflections that you ask yourself and to answer honestly. Recently, asking myself these questions have actually helped me feel better (since lately I have been feeling a little down- damn cold weather).

These questions have also literally changed lives, just by giving yourself permission to love yourself; or at least finding ways to acceptance within your life. So I wanted to share the questions with you. Answering them couldn’t hurt, could it?

The SUCCESS CONDITIONING SYSTEM RESULTS RITUAL

by Brian Taylor, Life Coah: Evolve YOUniversity


The Morning Power Questions

1. What am I or what could I be most happy about in my life
What about that makes me happy? How does that make me feel?

2. What am I or what could I be most excited about in my life now?
What about that makes me excited?  How does that make me feel?

3. What am I or what could I be most proud about in my life now?
What about that makes me feel proud? How does that make me feel?

4. What am I or what could I be most grateful for in my life now?
What about that makes me feel grateful? How does that make me feel?

5.  What am I or what could I be enjoying most in my life now?
What about that do I enjoy? How does that make me feel?

6. What am I or what could I be committed to in my life now?
What about that makes me committed? How does that make me feel?

7.  Who do I love? Who loves me?
What about that makes me loving? How does that make me feel?

8.  What questions can I ask that will add value to the lives of people I interact with?
What about that adds value to me?  How does that make me feel?


The Evening Questions

1. What have I given today? In what ways have I given today?

2. What have I learned today?

3. How has today added to the quality of my life?

4. How can I use today as an investment in my life?

That’s it. Try them out, see how you feel after answering these questions. For me, I find that I feel happier and more content with myself, which I can definitely improve on… loving myself.

“Love yourself, for who and what you are; protect your dream and develop your talent to the fullest extent.”

-Joan Benoit Samuelson

In what ways can you love and accept yourself today?

{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

fartygirl December 30, 2010 at 5:25 AM

This may be my favorite post of yours ever! It reminds me of an excerpt from Rosemary Gladstar’s Family Herbal. She talks about living art, instead of making art. When I manage to turn my days into art, that’s when I love my life the most. Thanks for the reminder! Happy new year!
.-= fartygirl´s last blog ..Top Favorites =-.

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Joanne December 30, 2010 at 4:36 AM

These are great Lori! I’ve also been in a really down mood lately. Part weather. Part running injury. Part just not feeling good about the way I look. Part med school. And I think asking myself these and reminding myself that I can rise above all of this will be really good for my mental health.
.-= Joanne´s last blog ..Brazilian Black Bean Soup VEGAN =-.

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Pure2raw twins December 30, 2010 at 3:24 AM

Great post girl!!! I do not even know where to begin…but Life is worth living because of love 🙂 Loving oneself is hard to do, but I love myself because I never give up. I always keep trying, keep fighting!

Thank you for sharing these questions with us! I love them, and will refer to this post often.

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Katie December 29, 2010 at 8:35 PM

Your mom’s gift and comment are priceless and amazing. I think I need to start doing this. I used to write down 5 things I accomplished at the end of every day. It takes away from the “I didn’t get anything done” feeling that we feel a lot. I learned that I always got way more done than I had thought originally.
.-= Katie´s last blog ..Vacation mode =-.

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Alisa Fleming December 29, 2010 at 7:53 PM

You are so philosophical and sweet! I can see where you get it from, your mom definitely seems awesome too.

Hmm, I’ll have to work on this whole self-love thing … looks like a good place to start 🙂
.-= Alisa Fleming´s last blog ..Asian Noodles =-.

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yo yo mama December 29, 2010 at 3:00 PM

You are always an inspiration to me, dear daughter. I love watching you grow. Quite a journey, isn’t it?

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sophia December 29, 2010 at 2:22 PM

This is in the bible, too. Love is above all things. 🙂

This is such an inspiring post, Lori. And just what I needed today. Thank you.

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kate December 29, 2010 at 1:19 PM

these are great! thank you so much for sharing. i am feeling really introspective lately and have been pondering some of this stuff. i should make them into an evening journal.
.-= kate´s last blog ..Mugs =-.

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melissa December 29, 2010 at 1:05 PM

Lori this is an awesome post!
Those questions go deep! What a way to start your motivational juices flowing in the morning:)
.-= melissa´s last blog ..My Christmas through pictures! =-.

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Lindsay Cotter December 29, 2010 at 12:50 PM

oh wow, these are so empowering! I love the questions. I love accept myself today despite my flaws. because really, my flaws make me who I am! 🙂
.-= Lindsay Cotter´s last blog ..Year of Health &amp Healing =-.

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Christin@purplebirdblog December 29, 2010 at 12:46 PM

With the tough time I am having lately, this post hits so close to home! I’m really trying to focus on the good and also be of service to others so I can get out of myself.
.-= Christin@purplebirdblog´s last blog ..Mama Said There’d Be Days Like This =-.

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zoe (and the beatles) December 29, 2010 at 10:51 AM

what a great post, lori. this is why i love your blog — i’m so glad i stumbled on it! the cold weather has been getting me down a lot lately, too. (um, HOW RIDICULOUS was the rain yesterday? and the freezing-ness?! (sidenote: i love that we live so close to each other too so i know exactly the type of weather you’re referring to!!)) on those difficult days (like yesterday) i try and focus on the positive as well! i ask myself: what in my life is bringing me happiness? what object of positivity can i focus on? i’ll also try and do the things i love. yesterday i rock climbed and did yoga. so centering on such an emotionally rough day!

i love the end of the day questions, too!! as of late i have found myself fixating on more negative aspects at the end of the day. i think if i use those questions it will really help me stay positive in a moment of vulnerability. thanks, lori! have a wonderful wednesday 🙂
.-= zoe (and the beatles)´s last blog ..just something i noticed =-.

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